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Problems Galore and No Problem has a Simple Solution!!!

Everyone in this world has his own problems. Even before taking the birth, a human-being start creating the problems in the womb of the mother. The problems are bound to originate. Where there are humans, there are problems. If I talk in the language of Mathematics, I would say that there can be four possibilities: A complex problem and a complex solution, a complex problem and a simple solution, a simple problem and a complex solution and finally a simple problem and a simple solution. The irony is that none of the human problems has a simple solution. May be we make the problems so complicated that it becomes difficult to find the solution or may be we are not willing to settle for the simpler solutions.

Day before yesterday I was having a talk with one of my friends whose father is planning to wed her sometime soon. Interestingly, her problem looked simple at the first instance as she was ready to go for the arranged marriage, but when she started narrating her constraints I thought even her problem was not as simple as I initially thought it to be. Let’s have peek into my conversation with her:

I: Saw your college pics yesterday… you were looking quite slim! 🙂

Friend: Oh… thanks! BTW, I look good now also nah?

I: Yeah…definitely! (With sarcasm)

I: So, when will you get married?

Friend: Probably by Jan 2011.

I: Oh… that’s great. Abhi ladke ko khojna hai ya dhoond liya hai?

Friend: Yaar! Abhi dhoondna hai. Mera BF nahi hai… But there was one guy who wanted to propose me… Is se pehle ki vo mujhe propose karta, maine use bhaga diya.

I: Whatttt? Why?

Friend: Because he was not tall… and I like tall guys.

I: Oh… is it? (I started thinking about my height and thought that at “5 ft 8.5 in” I didn’t stand any chance even if I wished to)

Friend: Are yaar kuch din pehle mere dad ek 6’6″ ladke ko le aaye… Main to uske saamne bachchi lag rahi thi…

Friend: And you know, one family came yesterday to see me. Aur ladka mere se pooch raha tha ki vo mujhe kaisa laga…

I: What did you say then?

Friend: I told him that I have just seen him. Aur vo bolta hai “har roz meri photo ko dekha karo… apne aap achcha lagna shuru ho jaunga”… What nonsense? I can’t marry such guys!

I: Of course! Definitely not!

And then she mentioned a whole lot of mind-boggling other constraints also! I said to myself, “Leave alone humans, even God will find it difficult to solve such kind of complex problems!”. I am freely putting this conversation that I had with a friend of mine for the simple reason that she is not going to read my blog post as she is too busy looking to satisfy her objective function subject to her large number of constraints. And even if she does read, she won’t mind! 🙂

Let me narrate you another interesting piece. Some days back, I happened to get the reply for one of my questions from the famous playback singer Asha Bhosle. I posed the question to Lata Mangeshkar, along with the mention of her sister Asha Bhosle, as to why she didn’t follow her sister on Twitter. However, I got the reply from Asha Bhosle (See the following tweet conversation).

Asha Bhosle was very frank to admit the sour relationship with her sister. Her reply was in the form of an English version of a typical Hindi idiom “Ek miyan me do talwaren nahi reh sakti“. I liked the frankness in her response. However, if that has to be the case, I couldn’t understand as to why Asha Bhosle was following her sister Lata. May be Asha Bhosle wants to keep a vigil on the tweets of her didi. Whatever the case be, it’s none of my business. But one thing is for sure that there are certainly problems in the relationship between the two sisters.

The God created the complex humans and humans in turn created the complex problems and even complex solutions. We need to change our perception about our problems if we have to handle them effectively and find an amicable solution.

The way we see the problem is the problem. ~ Stephen R. Covey


Do We Remember Those Moments?

We humans have a tendency to forget the things too quickly and I am no exception. However, there are certain moments which probably always remain in our brains, our hearts and our nerves for whatever reasons. If you are thinking that I am going to talk about love, ishq, pyaar-vyaar etc., then your guess is wrong.

Let me start with my own experience first. It was when my parents (my mother to be very precise) put me in a Dehradun based boarding school named Scholars Home. I was very excited to shift from my old Hindi-medium school to this new English-medium school in the beautiful Doon valley. My father was in no mood to send me far-away from him and he was quite shocked to learn about the news of I having cleared the admission test. Somehow, my father conceded to my mother’s demand to get me admitted in Scholars Home for the sake that I would get better education over there.

Now, the new phase of my life started. As a rule, everyone had to talk in English over there. Since, I didn’t know how to speak fluently in English, I used to prefer keeping my mouth shut most of the times than getting caught & subsequently punished for speaking in Hindi. It was one of my first few classes when our Economics teacher Mr. Pant came to teach the subject. As a rule, whole class got up and greeted the teacher with “Good Morning Sir” phrase. However, somehow Mr. Pant couldn’t help noticing my greeting style. In my own ubiquitous Gaon-wala style, I wished him Namastey with my both hands folded together. I still remember his words “Beta main tumhare sanskar samajhta hoon, par yahan pe sab tumhara mazaq udayenge“. After saying this, he started with his class session on economics. He was talking about luxury goods and suddenly he asked me to give some examples of luxuries. I thought for a while and came to a conclusion that I had heard that word or a similar one before. I started citing grease, oil etc. as examples of luxuries only to realize later that those were lubricants. My fellow-classmates couldn’t help stop their laughter after listening to my examples. And today, when I think about that moment, even I can not stop from laughing at myself .

Let me narrate you another experience, this time of my engineering college. Before I stepped into my engineering college, I hadn’t even felt the touch of a mouse, leave alone using it to surf the web. I used to get scared in my practical class of “Fundamentals of IT” and I used to search for the company of someone in the computer lab who could assist me in knowing the computer system better. Things rolled on and as the semester approached its end, we had to appear for the internal viva for the same subject. I was asked by our teacher if I had my mail id. I thought ” Hey Bhagwan, ye viva me mere se e-mail id jaisi hi-fi cheezon ke baare me kyon pooch rahe hain“. I faced the teacher and answered his questions somehow. That day I asked one of my friends, Varun Verma, to assist me make my mail id. Finally, I had my first e-mail id in the year 2003. I know I am talking as if I innovated something great, but frankly speaking, it was no less an innovative step for me. The main hurdle was pending yet. I was still to face the final practical exam of the same subject. I hardly knew any answer correctly in my practical exam and I after getting out from the computer lab, I broke into tears. That day changed my life.

I purchased a brand new HCL computer and started learning on my own. By the time I reached third year of my engineering, I could see my articles getting published in software sections of various International & National magazines. That was like a dream come true for me. No one had imagined that one who didn’t even know how to scroll a mouse could even get his software articles published in various magazines.

I am sure most of you would have also gone through numerous similar kind of situations in some form or the other. Those wonderful moments are our strengths and we can always bank on them to derive courage whenever we feel low. Let’s not forget those fabulous moments. I have made an effort to remember some of these moments by capturing them in my blog. Someone has rightly said that memory is a way of holding onto the things you love, the things you are and the things you never want to lose.

The most glorious moments in your life are not the so-called days of success, but rather those days when out of dejection and despair you feel rise in you a challenge to life, and the promise of future accomplishments. ~ Gustav Flaubert